Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Babies--there is purpose behind those tears!

Ever since I got preggo with my son (that was really five years ago!?) I've been a student of childrearing philosophies and methods.  Even from the beginning, attachment parenting clicked for me even if I didn't fully understand it until I was preggo with my daughter.  (If you aren't familiar with what attachment parenting is, there are lots of good sites here on the internet that explain it very well.)

Anyways, I used to get a lot of crap when my kids were babies; whenever they would cry I picked them up or I attended them.  I've always tried to respect my kids when they were in need by listening.  As I did this and encountered others who disagreed, I found it hard to explain myself on why I did so.  Today when I came across this article by licensed therapist Deborah Pettitt (who specializes in helping children with attachment issues), I couldn't resist posting it here.  It debunks the common (and dare I say damaging?) method that so many parents use today:

Children’s Attachment Issues Increase with the Cry it Out Method

Posted: Thu, 23 Jun 2011
It is sobering to report that I continue to see children in my practice that suffer from attachment issues due to loving parents receiving poor advice. They have been encouraged to use the “cry it out” method of teaching a baby to sleep through the night. Generally they have been told to ignore the child if he wakes. After a period of time the baby will learn to sleep through the night. Actually what the baby learns is that no one will come to meet his need so he stops trying.
Unfortunately the main thing that an infant needs to learn in the first year is to trust adults to take care of him. Additionally he needs to learn that parents continue to exist when they are out of sight (object permanence). The “cry it out” technique short circuits his ability to learn both of these things. Misinformed advisors who contend that a baby needs to adapt to the parents world do not understand child development. It sound nice but causes the child to be hindered in completing key emotional developmental milestones.
Parents that adopt young at risk children need to be particularly aware of this. The child may be chronologically three years but emotionally three months. The opportunity to sooth with the parent’s presence is important. You can get expert advice on helping children with sleep problems at Dr. Sears website.


The above article was written by Deborah Pettitt M.C., L.P.C., Registered Play Therapist Supervisor
Director of the Family Christian Counseling Center of Phoenix
1300 E Missouri Ave, Suite A200
Phoenix, AZ 85014

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Philosophical Thoughts On The Gross-eties Of Life

Ah, nothing breaks in a brand new wood floor like a poopy bottom scooted all over it.   And if that isn’t a disturbing enough image--it was probably the messiest version of the situation (just because you wanted to know).  And, just like the age-old philosophical question of the chicken and the egg, I can’t help but wonder, was the floor put in just in time to avoid a carpet catastrophe?  Or was the incident brought on because of the new wood floor.  

We will never know, folks.

But, hey--at least it wiped up easily.

(Refer to this for a better understanding of how things tend to go around here.)

Now to get rid of the ants that decided to take over our kitchen while we were finishing the floor install.

(Did I mention we got new, pretty, wood floors?)

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Book Snob?

Because this was on my mind, I took it a step further and took an online quiz.  (I know, seriously reliable, right?)  Anyways, here are my results:

What Kind of Reader Are You?
Your Result: Dedicated Reader
 
You are always trying to find the time to get back to your book. You are convinced that the world would be a much better place if only everyone read more.
Literate Good Citizen
 
Book Snob
 
Obsessive-Compulsive Bookworm
 
Fad Reader
 
Non-Reader
 
What Kind of Reader Are You?
Quiz Created on GoToQuiz

After this highly certified test (ahem, scarcasm), guess I'm not a book snob after all.  So when we talk next time and I poo-poo your favorite book, know that I do it out of honest personal feelings rather than literary bigotry.  :)

So now it's your chance; What kind of reader are you?